With all of the stress of the wedding and things we face everyday, I want to discuss some habits that steal your happiness. Writing this post is for you and me. It has actually been quite therapeutic.
Holding on to toxic relationships
I always heard this but thought it pertained to romantic relationships. Y’all, this applies to friendships as well. There are lots of hard truths that we must face and will learn in life and this is one of them. I know so many people that are “fake friends” or “convenient friends”. Relationships are a two way street and if you aren’t growing and it isn’t serving you any good…the let it go. Take some time to re-evaluate the relationships in your life and don’t be afraid to make some edits.
Taking everything personally
This is literally me. Maybe it’s because my zodiac sign is a Cancer. I don’t know but I am so emotional and can get so emotional about things. It could be the smallest thing and somehow I will find a way to take it personally. At the end of the day the only person that winds up hurt is me. If someone is short with me it feels like I did something wrong even if I didn’t. Guess what, it’s ok for people to not like you. The world doesn’t revolve around us individually. Now don’t be a push over but speaking for myself…I will no longer allow people to dictate how I feel!
Putting yourself down
This is so sad and I can’t even believe I have to write about it. Have you ever heard someone say “I suck” or “I’m not smart enough to get that job.” Maybe not that but how about someone that says “I can’t.” Just because you didn’t get that job you wanted doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough. Don’t put yourself down ever, especially if things just aren’t going your way.
More specifically…PROCRASTINATING. Yup, we are all guilty. It’s like when you say you are going to the gym at 10am. Then 10am comes and goes and you push it to 12pm. On and on until next thing you know the day is gone. Same thing with dieting/eating healthier, starting a project, saving money for whatever, cleaning the house, etc. The excuse is that we are “waiting for the right moment.” Well guess what, there is no right moment. If there is something that you want to do, JUST DO IT! No excuses and stop waiting around. So many goals and dreams never get accomplished because of waiting. Stop waiting to start to live your life and just do it!
“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.” I’m all for quotes and I’ve got them for anything that you may be going through. We all know that fear can hold us back from some of the most glorious things in life. Will Smith has this amazing motivational video talking about his experience with fear. He talks about skydiving. Long story short he says a great quote, “Bliss is on the other side of fear.” Don’t allow fear to keep you waiting while focusing on what you don’t want and putting yourself down. See what I did there?
Focusing on things you don’t want
The next time you have a conversation with someone pay attention to how many times they talk about things they don’t want. “I don’t want to be late to work.” “I don’t feel like arguing with my husband today.” All of these things bring negative energy to us and we end up spending our time dwelling on what we don’t want. The funny thing is that due to the Law of Attraction you actually end up attracting what you don’t want to yourself. You can turn this around by focusing on thing you do want. A new car, house, job, peace of mind anything. Focus on what you want and attract that into your life.
Ahhh, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” There is no more true statement than that. We do it everyday….social media. We watch people’s stories, scroll through people’s feeds and compare ourselves. “He/She has more followers than me so they must be better than me.” “He/She is always travelling and having fun so their life is better than mine.” “He/She is always getting new things, I wish I had money like them.” Social media is nothing but a highlight reel. No one shows their worst self on social media otherwise no one would follow them. Instead of feeling inadequate or jealous when people achieve things that we want we should be grateful for what we have. We should let those feelings be our fuel to doing and being better.
How can you focus on yourself when you are so busy comparing your life to everyone else’s? There are many lies that people and this world will tell you. “You’re too old to try something new” or “It’s too late to do XYZ…” Are those people living your life? Are they paying your bills? Do they dictate how you feel…as we said above NO.
Thanks for reading!
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